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Apologies to Oscar Wilde, and anyone who thinks I’m about to
defend racism. Yeah, that ugly word for
that ugly act is in the news again. Or still. You’d think that the 21st Century
would be some sort of enlightened age, where humankind finally accepts that
while we’re all different, we’re all the same in that no one gender, race,
nationality, etc. is higher on some sort of scale than any other.
Bigotry, racism, prejudice, bias, call it what you will.
We should be discriminating, but only on those points where
there IS a difference. He’s taller…she’s
a better bowler…they have better coffee…they scored more points…this car gets
better mileage…etc. I cannot fathom any
descriptor or comparison where one could legitimately say, “All blacks do X” or
“All gays do Y” or “All men do Z.”
Because they don’t.
All of those who make up some sort of classification don’t
all do bad things, or good things.
Individuals do bad things or good things. Individuals do stupid things. Donald Sterling did a stupid thing this week,
and it got him in a heap of trouble.
The thing is, from what I've gathered from the multitude of
media reports, is that it’s not the first time he’s done stupid things. It’s not even the first time he’s done THIS
stupid thing. It IS the first time
anyone decided that someone should do something about it, and that’s a
shame. That someone DID do something is
fine, but let’s ask ourselves…why did it take so long? Hell, even Fox
News reported on Sterling’s racist past and the fact that it was no secret
in the NBA. The comments in question (the ones that cost Sterling $2.5 million
and his ouster from the league) were made in September - last year.
Do we really tolerate this kind of behavior? Well, yeah, but there are limits.
Had Sterling made such comments in a pickup basketball game
with a bunch of buddies, he might have gotten a few laughs. Had the comments been made in night league
with a mixed race composition, he might have gotten his ass kicked. As it was, he made the comments “supposedly
in private” (to two people) acting as an owner of a team in the NBA – a league
of professionals where
more than three-fourths of the players are African-American, and almost
half the coaches, too. Of course,
non-white ownership is puny (as it is in all professional sports).
In my opinion, such a statement is stupid (and depending on
your bent, “wrong”) in any context. I
know a little about racism, as my father shares many similarities with
Sterling. He was also named Donald,
loved basketball (two-time high school captain for Ann Arbor High School), and was
a bigot from the word go. He’d call a
spade a spade unless he was a dago, a hunky, a frog, a wetback, or a yid. I remember watching Norman Lear’s “All in the
Family” with him, and I asked him what he thought of the show. “Pretty funny for a bunch of kikes,” he said.
I don’t know why my Dad was racist, but he was. He worked with a black laborer for 14 years
and never said a bad word about him.
When he went to the race track in Northville or Hazel Park he hung with
the railbirds, many of them black (or as Dad called them “colored.”). He was no stranger to the N-word, of course –
that’s how the family knew someone had pissed him off somehow – the individual
went from “colored” to “N------.”
But it wasn't just race – Dad was a WWII marine who fought
in the Pacific, so we heard stories about the Japs and Nips and all of the
slant-eyed gooks when the Vietnam war was raging. Jews…Polacks…you name it. All except Germans (which runs in our family
tree, mostly). He even defended Hitler
in a classic argument with me: “Well,
what’s the hell’s wrong with Hitler, anyway?
Dad was always bad at math, and couldn't count to six million, I guess.
So yeah, racism is stupid.
It always has been. It always
will be. So please, can we stop
pretending that it doesn't matter and that it’s invisible and that it’s OK when
rich people and famous people do it unless it’s a media circus and then maybe
not?
Bigotry and denouncing all parties of a group is stupid and horribly
incorrect. Except for one group. Racists.
They’re ALL assholes. Even my
Dad.
In my old age, I find myself getting more and more silent about this stuff. The arguments/debates are with such an ingrained mindset based on that very stupid part of our culture that I don't seem to have it in me anymore. It seems that the most likely result is that it will continue to get a tad better over time as they die.
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